No one is naked or doing sexual acts on the living room floor – this is not a party to have sex at – although significant others waiting at home are probably fantasizing about it. A common misconception about this type of party is that it is a steamy HBO special, which it is not. Slumber Parties are a place for women to explore a sensitive subject that most have been raised to believe is taboo, in a safe, inviting environment – sex.
Dr. Laura Berman, founder of the Berman Center and award-winning author, said when we approach sex as a dirty little secret our sexual development and enjoyment both suffer. Healthy sexuality grows out of acknowledging sex as a fact of life. Instead of inhibition, anxiety and shame, we should try to embrace our sexuality as a healthy, loving expression of who we are.
Current research shows nearly 50 percent of men and women are unsatisfied with their sex lives, and 40 million couples are living in sexless marriages. Women possess the ability to have different types of orgasms and they should be taught how to achieve them. In turn, they can learn how to communicate that information with their partner creating a stronger, healthier bond.
All women are interested in ways to strengthen their relationships and add a little spark to the bedroom, but few women feel comfortable going into adult stores to research or purchase products. Being able to talk to women in a comfortable setting about an uncomfortable topic can help them accept their sexuality and do something with it. Many women may feel inhibited by the presence of men and children at a party that is frank in discussing sex. Guests are women ages 18 to 108, and children are never allowed on the premises during presentations.
One evening, I did a presentation for a skeptical group of women in their late 60’s, who were all very quiet and reserved. It didn’t take long to get them laughing and enjoying the evening. At the end of the night, each woman spoke privately with me and their comments were almost identical: each told me they were thrilled because they learned something and the surroundings were very comfortable.
Aside from Slumber Parties, I work full-time as a nurse, and have been married for 18 years with two daughters. My girls and I have an ongoing open-ended conversation about sexuality instead of keeping it hidden and taboo. Everyone in my family knows what I do and I am endlessly proud of the service I provide women. My husband and I have a deeper bond than ever – how can you argue with product research?
Tags: Volume 5 Issue 2
